This has been bugging me for quite sometime now, not because I have a problem with those who do it, but because I think whatever logic they use is kind of flawed. Why do ladies want to wait till marriage before having sex?
Don’t get me wrong, I respect these ladies, and in fact, I admire their self control, but I ask what for?
Growing up, I wanted to wait, because papa told me that is the greatest gift I could ever give a man, but then when I was old enought to rationalise it, I wondered, what for? Various reasons came up, I punched holes in all of them and went ahead to not only sleep with a man, but revel in it, something I do to date.
I’m preserving myself for my husband - Doh! Is he preserving himself for me? Then wouldn’t it be better when we both know our way around? Then, why should sex be viewed as a gift to the man? In my opinion, sex is for self and the other person’s gratification, and not a gift to the man. It’s no wonder, most innocent wives complain about this, calling it ‘giving him sex’
Because it’s a sin – The Bible is very clear about fornication and what not. Then I thought, why is this the greatest sin on earth? Here I just admitted to be a sinner and went right on with it. This is the only thing that makes me feel really guilty about having sex before marriage. Then here I wondered, what if I died before getting married?
AIDS Prevention / avoidance – This is a very serious reason to avoid sex, but what I say, you better avoid it all the way to your grave, becuase even in marriage, you are not guaranteed your man won’t sleep around. Actually in Kenya right now, HIV prevalence rates are highest among married people because of assumed faithfulness.
Right person – This is the second most valid reason for me, and it’s the reason I’d give my child. Wait till you’re sure he is the right person, then go right ahead with it. After he dumps you, don’t bother with right person, wrong person, after the first one, it doesn’t really matter 
sex will have lost it’s novelty.
Why would anyone want to wait? Please give me a good reason, one that my daughter can stand on, I wouldn’t want her punching holes on my theories like I did on my parents’.
